Beauty vs. Sexy

Often times it is debated, what is the difference between 'beauty' and 'sexy.' Are they synonymous? Does one outweigh the other? What are the contexts that the two may be used in? I will take out a before moment to somewhat explain the difference between the two. The 'beauty' part is relatively easy, though it is the most complex. 'Beauty' is what defines a person. 'Beauty' goes beyond the physical, it surpasses the mental, and it penetrates to the core of a person. A person's 'beauty' shines from within. Everything that the person is and aspires to be, you see through them and it is represented in their mannerisms, and partly through their aesthetic features. But, 'beauty' goes beyond 'hotness.' Being 'hot' or 'sexy' is attributed to what is seen on the television screen. And, since this is America, if it's on television or in the movies, it's wanted by the general population. There is nothing wrong with being 'hot' or 'sexy,' as long as the definition of such is defined correctly. 'Sexy' is pleasing to the eye. It's something that can be lusted after. It's something that is wanted. Now, the dilemma thus arrives when 'beauty' would like to counteract and intertwine with 'sexy.' Here is the infamous, Thomas-oriented, secret: they're the same thing. This can only be seen, however, in a relationship of true love. If someone finds you to be 'beautiful,' they're not saying that your look is beyond reproach, they're not saying that they see you as more than a sex symbol, and they're not saying that they want to have sex with you. They're saying that you surpass what words can explain. And when a persons entire being surpasses words, one can only say, 'beautiful.' And in the same breath, everything that is held back with the word 'beauty' is shown in the word 'hot' or 'sexy.' Those words give you that level of supremacy. Those words attribute to the sexual desire that people have. Everyone wants to be lusted over and everyone wants to be wanted in a sexual capacity. The thing that separates 'sexy' from other things is that love is not necessary to define someone as 'sexy.' That's why I can say that Scarlett Johannson is 'sexy,' but I can say that the one that I love is 'beautiful.' But, at the same time, I can say that the one that I love is 'sexy' because I have a desire for her that surpasses any desire for another. So, in closing, the want that women have to be both 'beautiful' and 'hot' can not be obtained through anyone at the same time. They can only be obtained at the same time through the action of love.

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Give me a kiss baby...I love you.

Sometimes you don't always realize what you have. Sometimes you don't always know what is real. But, sometimes, waking up to the truth is what makes us better people in the long run. To know love is to know God's goodness. To be loved by the opposite sex is to know God's most precious treasure. To be loved by you is to know God's perfection. Give me a kiss and see how much I respect you. Give me love and see how much I honor you. Sex isn't a right, it's an honor. It's given between people as an extension of feelings. Some use it in vain. Some disrespect the sacred notion of love's most honorable gift. However, some of us hold fast to the tradition that is 'love.' With that said, respect the kiss. With that said, respect the sex. With that said, 'Give me a kiss baby...I love you.'

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An Open Letter...

The heart is an odd instrument. The things that we allow people to do to our hearts, and yet we still feel compassion for them. They destroy everything that you thought was possible with their actions, and yet, you feel bad for them. There is no going back, I know that, and, to be honest, back isn't necessarily wanted in the first place. It's the getting over the hurt and the "what if" questions. It's an odd circumstance to love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

In all honesty, there are days where I miss the past, but, it's the past that is made up. Is anything of the past ever real after you see what someone is capable of. When you make such a mistake as that, you come to realize what it is that you have lost. Me. You become gracious and humbled by the experience and you learn. Both parties must move on, and hopefully it is a move to something that surpasses what was previously there. The thing is, you must put your all into the new. You must dive into it as if you can never be hurt again. There are things that I have told the new that I would have never told the old. I can be myself. I can be loved. I can be appreciated. And as I cry writing this, I just want to be faithful to the new, despite the past. I know that the past is the past and we all have one, but my past destroyed me, and the new continues to build up the ruins of a man that didn't think that he could ever be picked up again.

So, the words here are a cry to the past and a cry to the future. The words are for an unleashing of feelings. The words are to be honest. The words are to show love that was and love that is.

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Bye Bye Birdie

The past is just that, the past. However, the acceptance of the past is something that allows us to move forward. Our past shapes us and it molds us into different people. The past should mold us into better people. We should learn from the events of the past and use them as stepping stones to better understanding how we should carry ourselves in the future. The difficult part is getting others to accept how our past has shaped us. Each new person that we come into contact with must accept that there was a life before them, and, there will likely be a life after them. ("The present is a gift, and I just wanna be" - Common) We can only live in the moment. That is all that we have. The past should be left in the past and the acceptance of the past must be made by all parties involved. Let go and let God.

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My Mind: The Ever-Complex Object

I sat at the dinner table this evening with the three most important women in my life, and listened to two of them, my Mother and Grandmother, tell stories about when they knew that I was different. There were different instances and stories that each of them had that spanned my toddler years to those of my pre-teenage years. Their stories were different from the ones that I had about myself. I've known, since about the 5th grade, that my mind operates a bit differently. I just think on another level. I'm not claiming my level to be superior to any other, I just feel that the way that I think and act isn't necessarily to the following of that of the masses. For example, I'm comfortable enough with my sexuality to not speak on supposed "conquests," and watch shows such as; 'Desperate Housewives,' 'Gossip Girl,' and '90210.' But, on the flip side, I can tell you Lakers history going back to before I was even born. I can quote the illest lyrics out, just like ever other guy in the world. But, my mind, my mind is complex. I've always thought that I would be completely incapable of finding a long lasting love because of the complexity of my thoughts. I've always felt that any woman would get fed up with trying to understand and just give up delving into the mystery that is "Thomas Walker." I never stop thinking. I'm hardly ever predictable. I can switch up in a minute. When I'm happy, you'll know it. When I'm not happy, you struggle to see why. I don't divulge to much of my personal life to many. I love with all of my heart and I detest with just as much of the same. My thoughts are complex. My mind is an ever-complex object. Please, just try to keep up, and I apologize for the confusion in advance. (51/49)

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The Progress of a Successful Heart

The heart is often times correlated with being the origin of our affection. The heart is given to others to show them that we care for them. Our heart is the foundation for all successful and meaningful lives and relationships. The heart, however, is easily broken. The heart can be shattered, often times to the point of no return or repair. However, the mind is what allows us to think of the heart as such an ornament. The mind is what controls our emotions and our love. The mind is the source of progression and regression. Once hurt, we allow our mind to control our heart and shelter us so that we cannot be hurt again. But, the heart seeks progression. The heart seeks to feel that feeling from before, only this time, have the feeling be better. The heart seeks the next high that love provides and when it is found, the heart seeks to progress with that love. The heart seeks progression. I have the progress of a successful heart, and I thank you for that. (51/49)

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(Slow Down + Brand New + Something) X Drake = Magic Carpets & Sixth Senses

Perhaps Drake has the right idea. Think about it. "Slow Down." "Brand New." "Something." They're all songs that really just analyze different parts of the relationship. So, we'll take a "Last-type" look at each of these songs and what they mean through my eyes, based on my past, present, and future relationships. (No subliminals. All you get.)

"Slow Down"

There are alot of "what if's" in this track, but the main point is that, we could have alot. I might be able to get everything that first night, laying on the grass in the park. Maybe we both feel like we have a connection going that surpasses anything that we've ever felt before. The point is, however, that the initial feeling is based on the moment. There is no reflection. Everything is wonderful when it's new. After that first kiss, you feel like you're on Cloud 9, and that's wonderful. That's what's supposed to happen, but, you also need time to reflect. You need time to "slow down." Drake talks about knowing everything about the person. About it feeling right, but then it's over. Why would you jeopardize something that could be so splendid in the long run, for a bit of satisfaction that crushes everything thereafter? Sometimes we just need a moment to breath, learn, and "slow down." Not everything has to be done so quickly.

"What if I don't call you back, prove you right, and all this lasts just one night. Maybe we should slow it down."

There are a lot of feelings involved in everything that we do. Physical intimacy is one of the ways that our emotions are captured the easiest and hurt with that same sense of ease. Protecting your heart is vital. Taking things slowly can be so beneficial. The magic carpet is going steadily right now. And as long as you're on the same page with that special person, everything will be just fine.

"Brand New"

I'm only talking about the original version of this song. Lil Wayne ruined the remix. I'm sorry. He doesn't ruin many remixes, but this song was just fine the way it was. Alright, here it goes.

"Is anything I'm doing brand new?"

We've all asked this question. Well, most guys have. We don't like to admit that we're self-conscious, but many of us are. Many of us want to make sure that we're doing things right. We need a bit of, not so much gratification, but just, appreciation. If a woman shows no gratitude for our actions, then we have no idea what to think. We think that everything that we're doing has already been done, almost as though she is bored with it. It's often times just good to know that we're doing something right and that we're appreciated, especially if a guy is working his tail off to show her that she's more than just a girl, a woman, or just another conquest. When a real guy comes along, she should show him that he's doing things differently, or at least differently than she's previously experienced.

"And I hate hearing stories bout who you been wit. That's when I gotta hide, what I'm feelin inside, so you still think I'm confident, and damn. Is this gonna last? You're up on a pedestal. Are we moving to fast? Feel like I'm in crazy competition with the past."

Again, you have to slow things down to understand what it is that you have to do. We as men need to know her, and she needs to know us. That's just the way things go. We do have to learn about eachother's past. If we don't learn about eachother's past, it's very hard to understand what is, in fact, "brand new" and what has already been done. We all want to be original in the way we love, treat, and make love to someone. We want everything to be "brand new."

"Something"

The song is only two minutes and ten seconds long, but I may have never heard a song that I could identify with more.

"Falling too fast, clearly rules don't apply. Can't believe that I just met you. You got me here watching minutes pass by, wondering when to expect you. There you go. Is this a dream? Looking like every picture that I've seen of you before."

We often times fall too fast. We often times want a person to fill a void in our lives. We often think that nothing is "something" simply because we don't know the person. "Falling to fast. Can't believe that I just met you." Drake is dealing with a stranger. He knows that it could be "something" because of his initial reaction to her, but he doesn't know because he doesn't know her. We've gotten away from having a friend before we have a significant other. We've gotten away from actually caring about a person's likes and dislikes. Now it's more so based on how fast we can have sex with them. Our relationships have become entirely physical, to the point that we're having sex with strangers; not knowing who they are, what they like, or what there goals are in life.

"I've seen it all before. Now that its over, I should have known better than to think this was real and you could be mine. I should have known better, slowed it down, cause I feel you needed time, but I kept thinkin..."

We push things because our heart craves love. We crave that feeling of being in love to the point that we convince ourselves we're there based on the notion that we could get to that point with a person.

"This could be something, this could be something, this could be something. Maybe it's just nothing at all. But this could be something..."

We all know when the potential for love is there. I just hope that we realize that there is always time to grow to care about the person. There is no rush if there is promise and potential there. We learn from our mistakes of rushing things in the past. Drake speaks on that in the beginning of the song. He says that he knows that time was needed. A lot of times people need to heal from past relationships. A lot of times people have to learn to trust again. No, it's not necessarily fair that the next person has to pay for the last person's faults and mistakes; whether it was cheating, lying, or general lack of respect, but, if it is indeed "something," then it's worth the time and effort.

"I guess it's what we make it, I guess it's what we make it."

We have the power to make any relationship what we want it to be. We have to discern when is the appropriate time for the appropriate action.

I'm glad that I have my magic carpet and my sixth sense...

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